I must be a bad healer.

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” – Rumi

I must be a bad healer.

Really, I must be.

Because most of the problems I hear people complain about just don’t sound like problems to me.

If you ask me to solve your “perfectionism” I’ll tell you to listen to it.

(it’s here to help you; let it drive your work to new heights)

If you ask me to heal your imposter syndrome, I’ll tell you to work harder.

(we all start out as imposters, because we all suck at the start; you’ll stop feeling like an imposter when you’re good enough to stop being one)

If you ask me to cure your self-doubt, I’ll tell you to come back when you have a real problem to solve.

(there’s a clinical term for people who never doubt themselves: narcissists)

I told you, bad healer.

But I swear to Vishnu:

If one more person tells me their life is terrible because Mercury is mad at them, I’m jumping off the roof.

Listen, people:

These aren’t problems.

And they’ll stop feeling like problems the moment we stop seeing them as problems, and start seeing them for what they are:

Natural human feelings that exist for a reason.

Feelings that are the result of billions of years of evolution converging on a single point called you.

Each one acting as a doorway to deeper self-understanding.

But we must walk through it.

And the first step to walking through it is to stop banging our head against it while complaining about our headache.

Of course, real problems do exist:

Childhood abuse.

Genetic illness.

Ancestral trauma.

Problems that are not self-created, but the result of living in a profoundly sick world.

Problems like these are an honor to help solve.

And I happily go to battle against them at every retreat we run.

But please, y’all:

We have enough real problems.

We don’t need to imagine new ones.

So let’s give ourselves a break.

Accept that the human experience comes with some uncomfortable feelings.

And embrace those uncomfortable feelings for what they are:

Messages from ourselves, to ourselves.

Messages that, when listened to completion, tell us exactly what we need to hear, when we need to hear it.

Messages that may not make us feel better.

But will, without exception, make us better.

Because if we’re not here to get better…

What are we even doing?

– T

P.S. No email tomorrow, as we’re wrapping up our retreat here in the Amazon.

Our next issue should arrive sometime early next week, once I’m back on Canadian soil.

I look forward to sharing more on the other side.

It’s been a real one.

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