The Art of Self Design is on sale at a $100 discount until Thursday at midnight.
If you’ve heard me say this before, I’ll repeat it now:
Confidence is simply the ability to trust yourself.
Not the ability to tell yourself nice things about yourself, to think you’re better than others, or to strut around like “the man” or “Top G.”
Real confidence isn’t born out of comparison and validation, it’s born out of trust — and real trust is born out of proof.
As an example:
Let’s say you and I meet for the first time, and I immediately start telling you how trustworthy I am (“you can trust me, I promise!”)
How much do you trust me?
Hopefully not much — if you’re sharp, your bulls#!* detector started screaming as soon as I tried to convince you.
But what if three months go by and I do everything I say I’m going to do, when I say I’m going to do it, keeping every word and living up to every promise?
Now we’ve got trust — or, in other words:
You have confidence in me.
And earning your own trust — ie. building confidence in yourself — works the same way:
Not through pretty self-talk and positive affirmations — ie. trying to convince yourself of who you are…
…But through proving who you are through real-world actions.
The formula is simple:
1. Clearly define your personal code; the principles you live by and refuse to break (even when you might gain short-term benefit from breaking them).
2. Match your actions to your personal code, so that every time you live by your code, you gain trust your own trust, and feel your confidence grow.
The end result is the undeniable sense that you really are who you say you are — which is, of course, another way of saying:
Confidence.
This is the core process within Modules 2 & 4 of The Art of Self-Design…
…Where we will lay the foundation for rock-solid inner confidence, and execute a clear system for making that confidence stable and permanent.
If you’re ready, here’s where you can join at a $100 discount until Thursday at midnight.
I hope to see you inside.
– T
P.S. Here’s what I didn’t say above…
There is another side to building confidence that isn’t actually about building at all.
In fact, it’s the opposite; the yin aspect of the yang approach above — just as important, and just as powerful — and the combination of these two approaches is exponentially more powerful than either of them alone.
Let me know if you’d like to discuss it in an upcoming email.
(maybe tonight or tomorrow, depending on how inspiration strikes)
